Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

Nah.You will feel better soon. Everything, good or bad, will pass.

take care.

dun think this way..at least u bother to tell us your prob here..i;m sure you will make throu this time..cos at the end day...our life is not only girls..u still have u friends, parents and alot more who r care about you..tell u what..i broke up with my girlfriend last night too...i know we feel hurt...maybe my amount of hurtness can;t compare to yours..but still jhave to say this...jia you and let time heals everythi...

take care

Go out some where quiet and take  a breeze or lock yrself in quiet room. Listen to heartbreak song and have a big cry. After that u willl feel much better.

Originally posted by HuaGe:

dun think this way..at least u bother to tell us your prob here..i;m sure you will make throu this time..cos at the end day...our life is not only girls..u still have u friends, parents and alot more who r care about you..tell u what..i broke up with my girlfriend last night too...i know we feel hurt...maybe my amount of hurtness can;t compare to yours..but still jhave to say this...jia you and let time heals everythi...

take care

Hi,

I am facing two things at once. My depression and my break up. Depression is causing alot of problems for me. Add in the break up with puts further pressure on my mind and heart, its really tiring.

I have never felt so tired before. I have never cried a few times in a day being an adult. I feel like a zombie now with no mood for anything.

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Go out some where quiet and take  a breeze or lock yrself in quiet room. Listen to heartbreak song and have a big cry. After that u willl feel much better.

I did cried. A few times today.

Goto work, let the work numb your soul for awhile... After work go to somewhere open like a  beach to think things straight.

Originally posted by setokaiba:

I did cried. A few times today.

Big cry???

Originally posted by CannyOng:

Big cry???

How big is big? Hmm. Is half hour of crying each time considered big cry?

hi friend...serious depression and mild depression can be alot of difference..but if you under ovbservation and medication..pls do so.. dun skip you medication and conselling peroid with your doctor...find someone u most comfortable with..try to spill out everyth inside your heart to u friends.. you will definitely feeling much better after that....u need emotional support now...i'm dunno u or else we can hang out together to 'vent u anger/depression'...we have the same fate..but you sound worse than me..

take a break from you work if youn think u can;t concentrate to do anythi now...try to find somethi to do just to occupy u mind from thinking of her...really have to take care...

Originally posted by whiskers:

Goto work, let the work numb your soul for awhile... After work go to somewhere open like a  beach to think things straight.

Sorry, I forgot to mention. Work is part of the reason for my depression. So probably it wont numb me.

Originally posted by HuaGe:

hi friend...serious depression and mild depression can be alot of difference..but if you under ovbservation and medication..pls do so.. dun skip you medication and conselling peroid with your doctor...find someone u most comfortable with..try to spill out everyth inside your heart to u friends.. you will definitely feeling much better after that....u need emotional support now...i'm dunno u or else we can hang out together to 'vent u anger/depression'...we have the same fate..but you sound worse than me..

take a break from you work if youn think u can;t concentrate to do anythi now...try to find somethi to do just to occupy u mind from thinking of her...really have to take care...

I duno how serious is my depression. I am not on medication either.

I tried to find someone to talk to but it seems I really need someone to be by my side for a long time. Everyone has their life, even the best of friends. They cant be by me for a long time.

Yes, you are right. I need emotional support now. Alot of them. But I am sad to say, I could not find much from my best friends. I called 3 of them. 2 of them could not comfort me and told me what normal people would say like move on, there is life, be strong. I dont really find emotional support from these. 1 other who is slightly better but was busy with things so could not talk to me much.

have you tried playing games? watching porn? these things can help you to de-stress a little.

when you go back to work, just take the work lightly and don't put too much effort in it, if you do.....you'll feel worse. you should feel down and sian for a couple of weeks and then it will gradually get better.

just let time do the healing, slowly but surely.

i mean, come on.....at least you've a gf....a lot of people in their mid-twenties like me never even farking have a gf before, so you should seriously cheer up based on that alone!

time will heal all wounds. this is just a phase of life people have to go through to mature.

you have to speak to some body. depression can be serious if you ignore.. cheer up friend, you are muc better off than some. Learn to appreciate life.

Originally posted by setokaiba:

I duno how serious is my depression. I am not on medication either.

I tried to find someone to talk to but it seems I really need someone to be by my side for a long time. Everyone has their life, even the best of friends. They cant be by me for a long time.

Yes, you are right. I need emotional support now. Alot of them. But I am sad to say, I could not find much from my best friends. I called 3 of them. 2 of them could not comfort me and told me what normal people would say like move on, there is life, be strong. I dont really find emotional support from these. 1 other who is slightly better but was busy with things so could not talk to me much.

how u know u suffer from depression in the first place ? have seen any doctor before? i think u r just feeling stress but not depression...

what u friends said to you r the correct things..most of ppl will said that too...but u r right they have their own life and you claim that u need someone by u side in order to justify u presence..that;s what i think u said u need someone by u side...i not sure how close u and u family member are..maybe its time to talk to your family member and i;m sure they will by u side all the time....

u need some moment to settle the toks in u mind now...i advice u to talk to u doctor if u think u can;t control u stress now and pls restrain uself from work..take a long break to find u own soul back first...

how u know u suffer from depression in the first place ? have seen any doctor before? i think u r just feeling stress but not depression...

what u friends said to you r the correct things..most of ppl will said that too...but u r right they have their own life and you claim that u need someone by u side in order to justify u presence..that;s what i think u said u need someone by u side...i not sure how close u and u family member are..maybe its time to talk to your family member and i;m sure they will by u side all the time....

u need some moment to settle the toks in u mind now...i advice u to talk to u doctor if u think u can;t control u stress now and pls restrain uself from work..take a long break to find u own soul back first...

dun worry nikar, u are not alone for not having a gf before :)

cheer up setokaiba, if you are really depressed then you wont be posting here.

so i guess its still not very serious

take care ya~

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

 

Setokaiba,

Why the breakup ?

And no, you cannot sleep forever.. ya gota get up and pee.

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

That's what life is all about, in the mire of complexity sometimes the best thing to do is keep moving on.

my gf just broke up with me 2 days ago too.

it came a sudden huge shock cuz we were really fine. in fact when i was away for a holiday, she sent me n we do exchg few smses n calls when i was away.

she told me she needed time, space for herself. its not her to stay in a rs. its true. her prev all lasted barely 2mths. ours lasted 7mths..

she felt a pressure n she wants to rid off this. so.. our rs has to b sacrificed.

i refused. in e end, she asked me to give her 1 week. just leave her alone for this period.

i m sad, devastated in fact la. cried like a baby.

wonder if i shld move on. but i just cant give it up. unable to let go.

TS, i understand how u feel.

this sucks..

very painful.

very hurtful...

esp when she tells u she wants to go, simply just took off, no traces of bu se de.

ouch...

its ok to get sad but dun sink into it and no u cant be like this.. go out.. meet a few good friends be it party or just la kopi.. go ahead.

divert yr attention… play online game… it eat your soul away..

Originally posted by setokaiba:

Hi all,

I have lost it. I am suffering from a double blow right now.

I have depression and my gf just broke up with me today.

This double pain is makeing my heart so heavy, so painful. How I wish this was a nightmare and I would wake up to see its all false.

My heart feels so hurting. I could not even do anything today. I have lost my apetite. I just ate a piece of pizza with a glass of water (Normally I would have eaten at least a few pieces).

I do not have the mood to do anything. I do not wish to go back to work tomorrow. I only had a couple hours of rest yesterday because of my depression.

I feel so tired. Can I just sleep forever?

 

get a fren out and hv a drink... hiding at home wun help...

Originally posted by pyjamasgirl:

my gf just broke up with me 2 days ago too.

 

it came a sudden huge shock cuz we were really fine. in fact when i was away for a holiday, she sent me n we do exchg few smses n calls when i was away.

 

she told me she needed time, space for herself. its not her to stay in a rs. its true. her prev all lasted barely 2mths. ours lasted 7mths..

 

she felt a pressure n she wants to rid off this. so.. our rs has to b sacrificed.

 

i refused. in e end, she asked me to give her 1 week. just leave her alone for this period.

 

i m sad, devastated in fact la. cried like a baby.

wonder if i shld move on. but i just cant give it up. unable to let go.

 

TS, i understand how u feel.

this sucks..

 

very painful.

very hurtful...

 

esp when she tells u she wants to go, simply just took off, no traces of bu se de.

 

ouch...

 

I believe shes just cheating u. Wtf with some1 who feel pressure and simply break up ? lol. its more like she knew other guy ya. What a stupid excuse that she gave u. Even if its the truth, dont u feel glad that shes the play-play type in r/s, doesnt want to get too serious in r/s ? If i were u, i should be glad. One day u will realise that.