US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by crystalsheep @ Sun, 25 May 2008 09:09:56 +0800

crystalsheep — Sun, 25 May 2008 09:09:56 +0800

My suggestion to you is to bring her along - since the ticket already purchase. Now then you ask her not to go, I think she will definately very unhappy. You shouldn't ask her to tag along in the first place. However, you can solve this easily by arranging a day tour with her just for shopping.

Well. As you said this will be the free and easy tour, which means that you very super flexible with your timing right. No need to feel that you are stuck in between, no need to think that situation is so bad la. Since there are some gals in your group, you may suggest to put in a day or 2 day shopping tour in your intinery.

Just open it for discussion, don be so sad ok~!

Problem can be solve, is just the mathod on how you solve it. cheers~!

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by vincentguy @ Sun, 25 May 2008 04:07:52 +0800

vincentguy — Sun, 25 May 2008 04:07:52 +0800

What does this say?

You don't love your girlfriend enough to pass up on this trip.

Yes. You will be disappointed if you were not able to join your friends on the grad trip, but pls realise that your friends (13 of them) can indeed do without you and still have fun along the way.

Im not saying that your girlfriend is right in making a big fuss out this situation. But the answer is actually pretty clear. Make a choice. Who is more impt to you? If its your friends and the US trip... den go for it.

If its your girl, then I would say pass up on the trip and have fun with her in BKK. You can always arrange another trip to the states.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by HyperionDCZ @ Thu, 22 May 2008 01:34:49 +0800

HyperionDCZ — Thu, 22 May 2008 01:34:49 +0800

yes. time to play hardball

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by monoslayer @ Wed, 21 May 2008 21:05:18 +0800

monoslayer — Wed, 21 May 2008 21:05:18 +0800

ur gf obviously needs a good spanking.

u have to show her who is the boss in tis relationship.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Lorry` @ Wed, 21 May 2008 20:54:22 +0800

Lorry` — Wed, 21 May 2008 20:54:22 +0800

so how is it now?

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by newcomer @ Wed, 21 May 2008 07:52:41 +0800

newcomer — Wed, 21 May 2008 07:52:41 +0800

nb follow tour group is the last thing i want to do lor. free and easy better. explore and navigate with map, shiok mah.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by rey619 @ Wed, 21 May 2008 07:41:11 +0800

rey619 — Wed, 21 May 2008 07:41:11 +0800

Originally posted by jojobeach:

You either

a) take her along,

b) choose not to go USA, or

c) you drop this relationship.

Choose one.

and

d) RHK her

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by jojobeach @ Wed, 21 May 2008 07:11:32 +0800

jojobeach — Wed, 21 May 2008 07:11:32 +0800

You either

a) take her along,

b) choose not to go USA, or

c) you drop this relationship.

Choose one.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Noughticated @ Tue, 20 May 2008 13:57:31 +0800

Noughticated — Tue, 20 May 2008 13:57:31 +0800

I need to know what your girlfriend is like before I can advise you good and proper. Blatant ideas usually lead to more or less a worse situation.

My suggestion is to leave her here and go to the States. For now, I believe time apart would be a good thing. I'm more worried about what she might do in Singapore when you're gone, and the aftermath when you get back.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by w.eikaas @ Sun, 18 May 2008 02:50:23 +0800

w.eikaas — Sun, 18 May 2008 02:50:23 +0800

Originally posted by darknessfall:

big mistake to ask her along unless she can get along well with your frens, and they are bringing their gfs along too! then she will have company.

did you tell her beforehand that its more on sightseeing? U must let her know clearly whats the trip for, and let her decide whether she still wants to go or not..but be tactful, cos they are super sensitive. One wrong word, they will think you dont want her to be around..ops.

true

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by darknessfall @ Sun, 18 May 2008 01:14:18 +0800

darknessfall — Sun, 18 May 2008 01:14:18 +0800

big mistake to ask her along unless she can get along well with your frens, and they are bringing their gfs along too! then she will have company.

did you tell her beforehand that its more on sightseeing? U must let her know clearly whats the trip for, and let her decide whether she still wants to go or not..but be tactful, cos they are super sensitive. One wrong word, they will think you dont want her to be around..ops.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by w.eikaas @ Sat, 17 May 2008 10:52:59 +0800

w.eikaas — Sat, 17 May 2008 10:52:59 +0800

tell her the truth what has been planned for the trip and its up to her to decide to go or not to go

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by SquarePants @ Sat, 17 May 2008 00:06:26 +0800

SquarePants — Sat, 17 May 2008 00:06:26 +0800

ask her come my house .. free of charge

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by life is void @ Fri, 16 May 2008 23:38:41 +0800

life is void — Fri, 16 May 2008 23:38:41 +0800

hey fren i understand how u feel (or maybe even worse) hmmm i tink u shld just follow where she wants and feel most happy to go to if u really wanna treasure this relationship. i know u may sacrifice a lot in the process, but if u feel for her is worth it ,u wont feel much sadness in doing so . Compromising is the best advice. but it is hard to...

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by life is void @ Fri, 16 May 2008 23:38:39 +0800

life is void — Fri, 16 May 2008 23:38:39 +0800

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Lorry` @ Fri, 16 May 2008 20:34:09 +0800

Lorry` — Fri, 16 May 2008 20:34:09 +0800

hmm.. you mentioned that there are other girls goin right? your friends' gfs

so if your gf go, she and other girls can go shoppin
you and your mates can go sight-seeing, etc
for meals all these can meet together later.. so the entire trip isn't a split trip - men and women separately. Occasionally make it 13 people, sometimes split.

if she doesnt go, like i said earlier, the ticket can pass to another friend whos keen.
then tell your girl you all can go BKK next time, after you return.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by icyboiz @ Fri, 16 May 2008 13:50:16 +0800

icyboiz — Fri, 16 May 2008 13:50:16 +0800

den u go there with yr fren and gf together but u go shopping with yr gf la, den let yr fren go sightseeing, wan have relationship bo bian must commit and sacrifice something.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Xcert @ Fri, 16 May 2008 13:35:10 +0800

Xcert — Fri, 16 May 2008 13:35:10 +0800

Originally posted by red_tide24:

just graduated, and my sec sch frens jioing me to go grad trip to US free and easy. But my gf wanted me to go BKK shopping trip with her instead. I'm not keen at all with the BKK trip, cos already went with her in January this yr. I'm more keen on the US trip. so i suggest to my gf to go with me to US. initially she was v reluctant, cos US more expensive than BKK. But i manage to persuade her.

then after we bought the air tickets and such, problems resurfaced. she told me she actually dun like free and easy. she preferred to sit in coaches and live comfy hotels. but ppl free and easy usually live cheap hostel or 4-5 ppl squeeze one hotel ma.

then she expect a lot of shopping during the US trip. but the US trip we planned has more sightseeing and adventure than shopping. and she is not happy. and i cant possibly asked my guy friends to change the itenary to a more shopping one.

so i tried to tell her not to go, as I already foresee that she will be unhappy for the US trip, but she still insist on going. how ah? what u all think i shld do? this thingy has been putting a lot of strain on the r/s. and aldy made me lose the mood for grad trip..

how?

4 mths only and she wants go back BKK...BKK got so many things to buy meh...ur gf sounds like very high-maintanance leh.

I dunno why U tried and unfortunately succeeded in persuading ur gf to go US with U...that's a major mistake...because she wasnt keen in the first place...get her to go also no point...dun even need to set foot on US soil...just the long plane ride she can make noise liao...

Sounds like she is the only gal going?

someone suggested that she goes shopping while U guys get ur adventure...can lar...depending on where U go lor...the lone gal roaming around is not such a good idea...

I think ur best option now is now to discourage her from going...wat for spend that kind of money for something she is not going to enjoy?...might as well spend it in BKK...so maybe if U can make it...come back from US then go BKK with her...or even meet at Bangkok to save on the additional flight out.

If it works...then comes ur next problem...her booked tickets....get another friend to take over(I think name change to ticket have to pay surcharge to airline,U have to check it out)...if no more friend then have to sell it online or something liao lor...worst come to worst...cancel the ticket....lose big but wouldnt lose everything(also depending on when U cancel).

solve the problem first...then think about whether U still want her as a gf.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Gackt247 @ Fri, 16 May 2008 11:58:02 +0800

Gackt247 — Fri, 16 May 2008 11:58:02 +0800

That's why i have this policy not to mix my time for gf with that for friends. Sure got problems.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by Spartans @ Fri, 16 May 2008 11:55:20 +0800

Spartans — Fri, 16 May 2008 11:55:20 +0800

For a large group, free and easy wont be easier, especially if e group consists of both men and ladies.

What is the agenda for the trip? Some want adventure, while others want city shopping.

Planning is so sian.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by jojobeach @ Fri, 16 May 2008 10:36:21 +0800

jojobeach — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:36:21 +0800

Originally posted by kopiosatu:

this kind of pattern, no thanks

Aiyah plese lah.. in US she wants to stay high class also cannot afford lah.

USD$300 per night a fresh grad how to afford ?

Go stay at motels and budget hotel already will burn the pocket liao.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by kopiosatu @ Fri, 16 May 2008 10:34:21 +0800

kopiosatu — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:34:21 +0800

Originally posted by eagle:

then give you ah

this kind of pattern, no thanks

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by eagle @ Fri, 16 May 2008 10:31:44 +0800

eagle — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:31:44 +0800

Originally posted by kopiosatu:

drop the gf, drop the gf, drop the gf~

then give you ah

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by jojobeach @ Fri, 16 May 2008 10:29:49 +0800

jojobeach — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:29:49 +0800

Originally posted by Hanagata:

aunt jojo

You call me that one more time, I will put you on my ignore list.

US grad trip: Friends or gf? replied by jojobeach @ Fri, 16 May 2008 10:28:45 +0800

jojobeach — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:28:45 +0800

Originally posted by eagle:

hahaha

Maybe end up go Wal-mart and Costco to shop

Actually for Europe (US not so sure), I do think that taking the public transport is quite an experience. Asian countries, take coaches better.

Pwees hor. You are the one asking me about Wal-mart and Costco ok ? Don't bah bodoh ah !

US transport is depen where they go one. Some places.. like Texas.. public transport is almost non existent.

If they want to only stay around city area then got some public transport.. if they no rentals then only can book day tours to go outside the city.

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