hi all,

I just know a guy. But i scared that he is just leading me on. He is incredibly nice to me, dates me out, maintains eye contact when is chatting with me and confide and divulge many secrets to me. He teases me at times also.

But he has never made the move on me yet.However, he sent me sms like everyday and will ask me stuff like how am i doing etc. I do not know if he takes me as a friend or has some romantic interest in me.

The most perculiar thing is that he asked me for my opinions when he is shopping for apparel and stuff. He put on the shirt and asked me how does he looks in it etc... I wonder why does he do that? He also tell me about his work problems.. However, he rarely asks about my private life. He will just reveal everything about himself to me without me having to ask him about it.

I admit  I am developing feelings for him as he is a very nice,sweet and gentlemanly guy.What should i do now? Does he really have some kind of romantic interest in me or just take me as a friend? In the past, i had experiences when a guy would date me out as a friend, sent me the wrong signals and then break the news that he only sees me as a friend when i confessed to me. It would be very disappointing and double blow to me if he likes some gals and only dates me out as a friend. I have been in the friend zone in the past.

Please help. I dont wanna be hurt again

Seems like he's interested in you, he asks you for your opinions so i'm guessing he cares about what you think. Maybe you should open up more to him and let him get the chance to know you better. Give it more time, then you will be able to determine if you are just good friends or something more. Try not to think about the past experiences.

Fcuk, first thing is find out if he is married.

Really.

This guy looks like a player.

maybe you should open & explain your feelings to him. 

It will do just fine =)

Originally posted by bearie000:

 He also tell me about his work problems.. However, he rarely asks about my private life. He will just reveal everything about himself to me without me having to ask him about it.

He showing interest in your life mah?

You can use this one for reference: 5 signs

cant be really sure what kinda guy he is, so observe a little longer. just to play safe.

in the mean time tell yourself hes just a friend. (buy insurance) just in case its another ‘just a friend’ case. if in time to come u find that hes interested in you, then you both can develop from there.

I have seen your previous threads and seem like you have the knack of keep falling in love with the wrong guy.

The reason might be because you fell too fast.

For now, just rein in your heart, treat him as a friend first and see how it goes. How long have you known him?

he hasnt made any move?

then dun think too much...

if i have done that like tha guy, i can tell u, he has romatic interest in u, maybe he is pursueing you.

It does seem that he's interested in you. However, if he was a real gentleman, he'd make the first move to express his feelings.

Some guys enjoy the initial feeling of wooing a girl, and some even take it as a challenge or achievement. While others usually wait to see if the girl has taken a liking for him to avoid rejection.

I'd suggest not to rush into it. More oft than not, this period of wooing and ocassionally flirting with each other is the most memorable time in a relationship. Enjoy the attention that he gives you, and the things he does to impress you. Soon, he'll realise that you like his company and take a step further to express his interests.

Good luck, and never lose faith in love.

There are guys who "shop" around first and then the best way to reject is "we are just frens".

U seem to like the guy very much huh...perhaps stepping a little into desperation. Relax....may scare the guy off.

One day, hold his hand and let go. See his reaction. Tease him my dear.

Correct!  Hold yr feeling first. U mention he rarely ask abt u? That is abit fishy... It will take sometime to know more of a person. Don't rush and never never reveal yr liking to him unless he reveal to u first.

it is your luck that to find such a nice guy, however i feel something is fishy, he seems to be a "pro" when it comes to dealing with girls. a bit too pro.

i suggest you do sth to piss him off, see his reaction, and maybe hope that he got so piss he show u his true colours.

never go into a R/S without seeing the "bad" side of your partner.

Just ask him if he`s interested in you or u does he just wanna be friends ?

This way if he says he just wanna be friends . Then continue being friends .

If he really is interested in you then be a happy couple .

Take the first move saves a lot of time dont waste time being shy . It`ll bring you no where .

Originally posted by charlize:

Fcuk, first thing is find out if he is married.

 

Really.

 

This guy looks like a player.

YOu may be right, most likely he is a player.    Sounds like one.

bearie00,

Sorry to dissapoint you.. but he sounds like a GAY.

I have friends who are gay.. and they behave like him.

relax, u aren't rushing into anything right? so if nothing better to do just tag along & hold ur feelings.

wanna test further, try rejecting some of his outings & see his response :)

is time to test the water to found out :)

Originally posted by jojobeach:

bearie00,

Sorry to dissapoint you.. but he sounds like a GAY.

I have friends who are gay.. and they behave like him.

HOLY SHIT! You're right!

Yea, I got tons of gay friends who are that way. And what's so peculiar about him asking you how he looks, it's only normal unless you have a terrible sense of fashion

I think most guys in general, if he's interested in you, he'll want to find out more about you, instead of letting you know everything about him. Sounds like you're in the friend zone. But then again, you'll never know, everyone is different.

I agree with Karma88, just ask him straight if he likes you.

Originally posted by bearie000:

hi all,

I just know a guy. But i scared that he is just leading me on. He is incredibly nice to me, dates me out, maintains eye contact when is chatting with me and confide and divulge many secrets to me. He teases me at times also.

But he has never made the move on me yet.However, he sent me sms like everyday and will ask me stuff like how am i doing etc. I do not know if he takes me as a friend or has some romantic interest in me.

The most perculiar thing is that he asked me for my opinions when he is shopping for apparel and stuff. He put on the shirt and asked me how does he looks in it etc... I wonder why does he do that? He also tell me about his work problems.. However, he rarely asks about my private life. He will just reveal everything about himself to me without me having to ask him about it.

I admit  I am developing feelings for him as he is a very nice,sweet and gentlemanly guy.What should i do now? Does he really have some kind of romantic interest in me or just take me as a friend? In the past, i had experiences when a guy would date me out as a friend, sent me the wrong signals and then break the news that he only sees me as a friend when i confessed to me. It would be very disappointing and double blow to me if he likes some gals and only dates me out as a friend. I have been in the friend zone in the past.

Please help. I dont wanna be hurt again

One cannot attempt to Love without risking being hurt again. Like two side of a coin, it is just part of the deal as you accept Love into your life. When you open the floodgate, you take in all things, both good and bad.

If you are weary about his intention, avoid taking haste and making irrational decision.

You might have like him, but it doesn't mean that he is suitable for you.

Hence, your next course of action would be to figure out if he is the right fit - at least a comfortable fit.

Halt that emotions for just a moment first - enjoy the companionship naturally, without placing yourself into some self-constructed commitment. Since you both are still within the 'friendship' zone, then behave and think likewise (albeit you probably will not be able to feel along this direction, but that's ok).

Cheers

as this is quite late and i have sch tomolo... i didnt read the replies..

my replies : asking for ur opinions doesnt mean he like u... ( i noe this is sad to hear but bear with me... at least this is my true words)

but going on date with u could mean something (not neccessary romantic feeling... maybe yes or maybe not...)

just asking... does he try to touch u yet he respect u a lot? for example he stroke ur hair? hit ur head after some stupid comment u made? flying kisses?

IA

Originally posted by Yunhaier:

One cannot attempt to Love without risking being hurt again. Like two side of a coin, it is just part of the deal as you accept Love into your life. When you open the floodgate, you take in all things, both good and bad.

If you are weary about his intention, avoid taking haste and making irrational decision.

You might have like him, but it doesn't mean that he is suitable for you.

Hence, your next course of action would be to figure out if he is the right fit - at least a comfortable fit.

Halt that emotions for just a moment first - enjoy the companionship naturally, without placing yourself into some self-constructed commitment. Since you both are still within the 'friendship' zone, then behave and think likewise (albeit you probably will not be able to feel along this direction, but that's ok).

Cheers

hmm, abit off the topic, but from a guy's point of view. if he's interested, and sincere. and the girl is feeling insecure and afraid of being hurt again. what can he do to make her feel secure, and to trust him?